Couples & Family Therapy

You can’t work effectively with couples or families if you aren’t comfortable jumping into the fray, looking for patterns and possibilities in the full-speed, multi-layered complexity of extemporaneous conversation, arguments, asides, and intrusions.

We once knew a therapist who at the beginning of the first appointment with new clients would articulate a set of rules that he insisted needed to be followed. Attempting to contain the anxiety he felt when his sessions felt out of control, he would admonish his clients to speak with respect and to allow each person to answer his questions without interruption from anyone else.

We don’t wag our fingers at clients, and we prefer to conduct ourselves in keeping with the couple or family’s rules, rather than vice versa. Relationships live in the moment, so if we want to explore the possibility of their changing, we figure we’d better focus our curiosity where the action is—in what’s happening in front of us in the room.